Life is not an audition

we are constantly trying to be perfect and “win at life”. life isn’t a competition to “win” we focus so much on the results and getting things done right and perfectly in order to get to some place “nice” or to “make it”. if you’re extremely religious, this is heaven for you. so, here in life, we are trying to do all the things necessary to get to a point where you can say you made it. every action of ours is in line with this goal of ours. guess what! I have a deal breaker for you!

life is the real deal.

this is it theres nothing more to it. this present moment is all you have to make a change in this world and in your own reality. stop trying to constantly get to someplace far.

because i’ve come to realise that all of us are in constant anticipation of what the future holds instead of just living in the present moment and enjoying this to the fullest!

and every present moment has become an anticipated memory of the past. it’s such a paradoxical life we are living and it is time we change that. so, stop trying to convince yourself there’s somewhere better to be instead just focus on doing your best at the current moment. works as hard as you can on yourself. be kind to everyone. you can’t technically fail at life because life isn’t an exam — you’re bound to have good and bad days but you keep moving forward and continually and relentlessly work on your skills and develop them!

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The L word

Learning is about inspiration, not information!

You are never really “done” learning. Learning is a constant process that keeps your mind alive and functioning. It can be thought of as breathing for your brain, once you stop doing it, your brain becomes dead<so to speak!> Idle mind is a devils playground. And when you stop assimilating knowledge, your brain becomes idle and starts wandering off in unproductive directions with you having no control over them!

When you do not feed your mind important, informative, intellectual <and other words starting from i that’ll make you think I’m smart> things to think about, it’ll usually result in you pondering over problems and overthinking, which is not healthy for either you or your brain. Keep your mind busy enough so it does not have time to think and worry about all the things that do not exist. Overthinking causes you to worry about the most unlikely scenarios <Imagine some witty example of why overthinking is a mess!>

We can all agree that education system, which says it is teaching something to kids, is heavily flawed. A bunch of kids — each definitely unique in their own ways, with obviously different interests, and who will all take varied amounts of time to comprehend and learn something are taught the same thing over a same period of time and are tested on the basis of their understanding of that! In my opinion, these tests determine the ability of the teacher to convey the information more than the student’s intellectual ability. <Many Indians nodding furiously in approval>

Since the obvious choice of learning seems to be below par, what do we do? Well, the Internet is a wonderful place to turn to at this time. We are fortunate to be a part of a world where you can Google anything and information about it appears for free, at your convenience.

Think about it, Internet is like your portable library+personal advisor+intellectual partner in crime.

In a world where information is so easily and readily available, the irony is that not many access and make use of it. We instead use the Internet for social media stalking and validation purposes. There’s nothing wrong with that but I urge you to take one small break from that routine and to focus on learning something new. It is a very small change in your life that could lead to many good things.


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Life can change pretty quickly

We have all heard about how nothing in this world is certain and the only thing that is a constant is ‘change’. It is true and you don’t realise how true this is until you are at the receiving end of this change.

Life just thunderbolts your entire world upside down in a fraction of second and you are left there stammering and gasping.

And this can happen to anyone, no matter how happy, sad, busy, entitled, arrogant, kind, loving, or smart you are. No one is immune to life’s sudden mood swings that leave you wondering and questioning about the very purpose of it.

This week I have heard of two deaths of people that study in my college. That is, two lives, that I have probably crossed paths with, who do not exist anymore. They were someone’s son/daughter, someone’s best friend, someone’s bae, someone’s constant. This is really a smack in my head by this thing called ‘reality’. This is a not so gentle reminder to the rest of us — the living, about how really uncertain and small life is and how we should truly be concentrating on the things that makes us and the people around us happy becasue no one knows for a fact who will be around for how long!

Reality is like a game that we are forced to play but you could, at any moment, be destroyed, and in truth you have absolutely no control over what is happening in the game except the things that you can do for yourself, by yourself. We keep making plans about the future as if it is guaranteed; instead we could be focusing on living today, and making it amazing.

Your forever could end tomorrow, so what is stopping you from living today?


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Rejection and Response

You have probably heard of how rejection and mistakes are good things. How they shape who you are and teach you valuable lessons. Well, it is true and false at the same time. Lessons are taught by nature at all times. But these are useful only if you heed to what they are saying and understand that these need to be taken in a positive way. The teachings of life can so easily be ignored because of the mere fact that it is indeed free!

Simply failing and making up excuses for your inadequacy isn’t going to benefit you from anyway. Make sure you are taking something away from these mistakes and learn how to better yourself the next time you have to do the task. Analysis and preparation are crucial for turning the failures into something of value. So, stop giving bullshit excuses to yourself and start analysing where you are going wrong.

We all get rejected and it sucks! Nobody likes being told “you aren’t good enough“, “your skills aren’t sufficient“, or even “better luck next time“. But you gotta remember, the comeback is always better than the setback. And you need to make sure that you aren’t repeating the same thing over and over. I’ve written about how harmful these patterns are Read here!

Here’s a basic system that you can use in order to get something valuable out of this rejection:

  • Put an end to denial – Stop thinking you are greater than thou and admit you failed
  • Review what you did or didn’t do against what you should have done
  • Figure out where you went wrong. If you can’t do it on your own, ask for help. There’s no shame
  • Now, that you’ve figured where you’ve gone wrong, start working towards how to make it right!

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Break free

There’s a tireless wave of really trying tasks,

we’re all merely stuck in an endless loop

that we created for ourselves.

Norms, we call them

stability, we tag them

easy, is what it is

and that’s why we are scared,

scared to break the loop.

 

For if you break it, you are free!

You can be you

even though you’ve forgotten what ‘you’ feels like.

You can be you, unfiltered

without generations of passed down prejudices.

You can be you, filled with grace

no judgements or adulterations.

You can be you, brimming with confidence

without the need of approval from others.

Looking back…

Looking back, I see

how much of my happiness I let others control

in constant need for validation and approval,

wanting to be liked and get along with everyone.

Made efforts that were never returned,

left… felt unloved.

Unwanted by some,

unseen by others.

I was invisible.

 

Looking back, I understand

it was my fault

to put myself in such a state

vulnerable, open, and unarmed.

I invited trouble

and trouble is what I got.

 

Looking back, I realise that I will never be that person

make those mistakes because

I have learned

I have grown

for the better,

for my own good.

 

What if the world comes to an end?

Then , we build it up again!

In the recent light of events, there seems to be a sense of fear and negativity among many of us. Some of us are expecting the worst to happen and we are terrified of it. We are creating instances in our heads that are noxious to our well-being. The media is portraying a very morbid picture of what the future holds and people are alarmed because of that. But the truth is, none of us know how the future will pan out and you cannot be afraid of it simply because of speculations.

There are terrible racist incidents happening in the US but linking every one of them to President-elect Trump is unjustified. These happened even before he was elected, racism was not born because of Donald Trump it was very much in existence before and it is important that you do not create more panic by linking each story incident to this and paint a ghastly picture!

If you cannot spread peace and love, do not speculate and spread bad news.

Talk more about the things you love and celebrate what you want to see more of.

Stop creating a villain out of Donald Trump before he has even had a chance to step into power. Sure, he has said terrible and horrifying things during his campaign but the truth is we really do not know what the future holds and postulating that the world is going to be a terrible place is unreasonable.

But of course, there is a possibility that bad things might happen but so long as we all stay together and promote love, bad things will go away. Stop turning against each other, not everyone that voted for Trump is a racist or sexist! Please acknowledge that and try to accept people’s choices. This is what democracy has to offer, accept it and try to promote love and support to everyone.


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