Rejection and Response

You have probably heard of how rejection and mistakes are good things. How they shape who you are and teach you valuable lessons. Well, it is true and false at the same time. Lessons are taught by nature at all times. But these are useful only if you heed to what they are saying and understand that these need to be taken in a positive way. The teachings of life can so easily be ignored because of the mere fact that it is indeed free!

Simply failing and making up excuses for your inadequacy isn’t going to benefit you from anyway. Make sure you are taking something away from these mistakes and learn how to better yourself the next time you have to do the task. Analysis and preparation are crucial for turning the failures into something of value. So, stop giving bullshit excuses to yourself and start analysing where you are going wrong.

We all get rejected and it sucks! Nobody likes being told “you aren’t good enough“, “your skills aren’t sufficient“, or even “better luck next time“. But you gotta remember, the comeback is always better than the setback. And you need to make sure that you aren’t repeating the same thing over and over. I’ve written about how harmful these patterns are Read here!

Here’s a basic system that you can use in order to get something valuable out of this rejection:

  • Put an end to denial – Stop thinking you are greater than thou and admit you failed
  • Review what you did or didn’t do against what you should have done
  • Figure out where you went wrong. If you can’t do it on your own, ask for help. There’s no shame
  • Now, that you’ve figured where you’ve gone wrong, start working towards how to make it right!

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Staring at the ocean

An old song, a familiar voice, a far-flung question

Oceans, train travels, waterfalls, mountains are all very evocative — they bring out a feeling of nostalgia. They somehow make us think about life in depth and scrutinise the things we are doing and why we are doing it. They provoke us to question our orenda. They do the same for me. I feel exactly those things and then some…

I often see myself as a luftmensch, some may even call me an ingénue but I’m often unfazed by that. While it is fine to be devoted to understanding yourself and the purpose, one must realise there is not definite answer for this. At least, not as far as I know. There’s no ONE purpose — at least not for me and my life, there are so many things that I can do and that I want to do; confining myself to one purpose seems inane to me.

It is often quite fascinating how I have a revelation every time I am in such places. We’re all so busy going after that perfect life — a job, a house, a car, kids — we just turn a blind eye to the present. To ourselves. To the endless possibilities of things that we could be achieving. Don’t get me wrong, if those are the things you actually want, then I completely respect your choice but if it isn’t.. I urge you make a change. Be different. Be bold. Stop thinking about the what ifs, the ‘Damn! I wish I did that’ and start doing. Because the regret will eat you alive and make you hate your life. There are a number of surveys that are conducted across the working class on whether they are happy with their job — and the result was overwhelmingly they hated their jobs but are sticking with it to feed themselves and their family.

You must work your ass off to do anything, don’t mistake that. Following your dream sounds very ebullient but it is a steep mountain to climb. And I know for sure that you have what it takes to go to the top and beyond. Getaways are good, but hustle is the real deal. So, go out there and work your ass off for whatever it is that you want. And when someone tells you ‘It is time to get married and have kids’ smile at their propinquity towards the stereotypes and get back to hustle. You don’t need someone to tell you when it is right for your to start your family — that is totally upto you and only you. You don’t need someone to remind you of what you want to do, that comes from within and your eternal desire to reach your goal is what is real. Don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise.


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