The L word

Learning is about inspiration, not information!

You are never really “done” learning. Learning is a constant process that keeps your mind alive and functioning. It can be thought of as breathing for your brain, once you stop doing it, your brain becomes dead<so to speak!> Idle mind is a devils playground. And when you stop assimilating knowledge, your brain becomes idle and starts wandering off in unproductive directions with you having no control over them!

When you do not feed your mind important, informative, intellectual <and other words starting from i that’ll make you think I’m smart> things to think about, it’ll usually result in you pondering over problems and overthinking, which is not healthy for either you or your brain. Keep your mind busy enough so it does not have time to think and worry about all the things that do not exist. Overthinking causes you to worry about the most unlikely scenarios <Imagine some witty example of why overthinking is a mess!>

We can all agree that education system, which says it is teaching something to kids, is heavily flawed. A bunch of kids — each definitely unique in their own ways, with obviously different interests, and who will all take varied amounts of time to comprehend and learn something are taught the same thing over a same period of time and are tested on the basis of their understanding of that! In my opinion, these tests determine the ability of the teacher to convey the information more than the student’s intellectual ability. <Many Indians nodding furiously in approval>

Since the obvious choice of learning seems to be below par, what do we do? Well, the Internet is a wonderful place to turn to at this time. We are fortunate to be a part of a world where you can Google anything and information about it appears for free, at your convenience.

Think about it, Internet is like your portable library+personal advisor+intellectual partner in crime.

In a world where information is so easily and readily available, the irony is that not many access and make use of it. We instead use the Internet for social media stalking and validation purposes. There’s nothing wrong with that but I urge you to take one small break from that routine and to focus on learning something new. It is a very small change in your life that could lead to many good things.


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Stop trying to fix me

We get disappointed sometimes. We fuck up. We get tired of hustling so hard. We get confused. We overthink. We oversleep.

This is all normal. This is all natural.

But have you noticed, when we talk about these to someone — your friend, family member or anybody— they always jump straight into giving advice. They want to tell you what to do, how to do and a routine to follow. They’ll give you solutions, ways to tackle, and overcome this ‘phase of life’. Steps to be productive, a morning routine, an evening routine, a micro habit that you MUST do to change your life. And what not!

I appreciate the urge and the eagerness to help, but please stop now! And I mean this in the politest way ever. Sometimes, I just want to rant, feel helpless, let it all out without wanting any ‘solutions’. I will ask for your help if I need, please do not shove it down my throat when all I want you to do is listen. Just listen to me go on about how I have not done any work this week. Listen to me rant about that annoying person I met on the bus. Or the time I was confused about my career choice. Also, the time when I was overwhelmed during my birthday surprise! Just. Listen.

This is not an order but a request. Stop trying to fix everything. Stop trying to fix me. I am not broken; just living. I’m bound to complain and rant. I’m allowed to do that. I understand the urge to wanna fix something—I have it too, it is human nature to want everything perfect and shiny. But I’ve learned to let it go and take life as it is.

I will surely ask for your assistance if I need it. But until then… Just Listen.


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Staring at the ocean

An old song, a familiar voice, a far-flung question

Oceans, train travels, waterfalls, mountains are all very evocative — they bring out a feeling of nostalgia. They somehow make us think about life in depth and scrutinise the things we are doing and why we are doing it. They provoke us to question our orenda. They do the same for me. I feel exactly those things and then some…

I often see myself as a luftmensch, some may even call me an ingénue but I’m often unfazed by that. While it is fine to be devoted to understanding yourself and the purpose, one must realise there is not definite answer for this. At least, not as far as I know. There’s no ONE purpose — at least not for me and my life, there are so many things that I can do and that I want to do; confining myself to one purpose seems inane to me.

It is often quite fascinating how I have a revelation every time I am in such places. We’re all so busy going after that perfect life — a job, a house, a car, kids — we just turn a blind eye to the present. To ourselves. To the endless possibilities of things that we could be achieving. Don’t get me wrong, if those are the things you actually want, then I completely respect your choice but if it isn’t.. I urge you make a change. Be different. Be bold. Stop thinking about the what ifs, the ‘Damn! I wish I did that’ and start doing. Because the regret will eat you alive and make you hate your life. There are a number of surveys that are conducted across the working class on whether they are happy with their job — and the result was overwhelmingly they hated their jobs but are sticking with it to feed themselves and their family.

You must work your ass off to do anything, don’t mistake that. Following your dream sounds very ebullient but it is a steep mountain to climb. And I know for sure that you have what it takes to go to the top and beyond. Getaways are good, but hustle is the real deal. So, go out there and work your ass off for whatever it is that you want. And when someone tells you ‘It is time to get married and have kids’ smile at their propinquity towards the stereotypes and get back to hustle. You don’t need someone to tell you when it is right for your to start your family — that is totally upto you and only you. You don’t need someone to remind you of what you want to do, that comes from within and your eternal desire to reach your goal is what is real. Don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise.


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Struggles in the last week

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There comes a time in anyone’s life when they feel like they aren’t worth anything. When everything they’ve done so far seems to be for nothing. Everyone around you seems to have it all figured out and making progress while you’re just stuck doing absolutely nothing. Well, this recently happened to me when I was dumbstruck by all the things that people around me – my friends, family – were doing. I felt worthless as if I was running out of time for some reason. I felt the need to do things and do them quickly. This urge, I thought was a good thing.

Turns out it isn’t.

When we feel like we’re running out of time and put ourselves under that kind of pressure when there’s absolutely no need for any of that, it causes more harm than good. Who set deadlines for the things that I’m yet to do? Who got to decide that if I start something now, it’ll be too late? Why should I feel like this is some sort of a race against time?

The answer is simple: The social pressure to ‘fit in’. Well, this pressure is the reason many of us are in jobs we don’t like and this pressure is the reason that many of us still haven’t taken that trip to explore the world because we have ‘commitments’ here. I’ve come to realize that we are fooling ourselves to a great extent by telling all these lies to ourselves. We do not have to do the same things that others do just because it is socially accepted. We do not have to do things at the same time our friends do. We sure as hell don’t have a deadline on our dreams. So, whenever you feel like ‘you’re falling behind’ know that there is no such thing as falling behind.

You have to work hard, sure. But that should come from within and be self motivated. You shouldn’t wanna do something because everyone around you is doing that. It’s not only stupid but also useless and never gets the results you’re hoping for. Worrying about the things that others are doing and worrying about the things that you haven’t done is never gonna change anything. So, get off the worrying boat and go kick some ass.

Stay motivated. Stay focused.