Life can change pretty quickly

We have all heard about how nothing in this world is certain and the only thing that is a constant is ‘change’. It is true and you don’t realise how true this is until you are at the receiving end of this change.

Life just thunderbolts your entire world upside down in a fraction of second and you are left there stammering and gasping.

And this can happen to anyone, no matter how happy, sad, busy, entitled, arrogant, kind, loving, or smart you are. No one is immune to life’s sudden mood swings that leave you wondering and questioning about the very purpose of it.

This week I have heard of two deaths of people that study in my college. That is, two lives, that I have probably crossed paths with, who do not exist anymore. They were someone’s son/daughter, someone’s best friend, someone’s bae, someone’s constant. This is really a smack in my head by this thing called ‘reality’. This is a not so gentle reminder to the rest of us — the living, about how really uncertain and small life is and how we should truly be concentrating on the things that makes us and the people around us happy becasue no one knows for a fact who will be around for how long!

Reality is like a game that we are forced to play but you could, at any moment, be destroyed, and in truth you have absolutely no control over what is happening in the game except the things that you can do for yourself, by yourself. We keep making plans about the future as if it is guaranteed; instead we could be focusing on living today, and making it amazing.

Your forever could end tomorrow, so what is stopping you from living today?


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Rejection and Response

You have probably heard of how rejection and mistakes are good things. How they shape who you are and teach you valuable lessons. Well, it is true and false at the same time. Lessons are taught by nature at all times. But these are useful only if you heed to what they are saying and understand that these need to be taken in a positive way. The teachings of life can so easily be ignored because of the mere fact that it is indeed free!

Simply failing and making up excuses for your inadequacy isn’t going to benefit you from anyway. Make sure you are taking something away from these mistakes and learn how to better yourself the next time you have to do the task. Analysis and preparation are crucial for turning the failures into something of value. So, stop giving bullshit excuses to yourself and start analysing where you are going wrong.

We all get rejected and it sucks! Nobody likes being told “you aren’t good enough“, “your skills aren’t sufficient“, or even “better luck next time“. But you gotta remember, the comeback is always better than the setback. And you need to make sure that you aren’t repeating the same thing over and over. I’ve written about how harmful these patterns are Read here!

Here’s a basic system that you can use in order to get something valuable out of this rejection:

  • Put an end to denial – Stop thinking you are greater than thou and admit you failed
  • Review what you did or didn’t do against what you should have done
  • Figure out where you went wrong. If you can’t do it on your own, ask for help. There’s no shame
  • Now, that you’ve figured where you’ve gone wrong, start working towards how to make it right!

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ANNOUNCEMENT: NEW YouTube Channel!

Hey guys,

I am happy to tell you all that I have started a new Channel on YouTube to be able share my ideas better and in a better way and I hope you guys find it interesting, I would greatly appreciate it if you could take a look at the channel and support it. Thank you in advance.

Here is my video, introducing myself and why I started YouTube:

How you do one thing is how you do everything

“Just this once”

This is one of the most common excuses I have heard myself give in various circumstances when I mess up something. I convince myself that it’s always the first time I am being bad at what I do. While this may be true— I may actually have messed up for the first time in the given situation; there’s a pattern! I got so used to letting myself off easy for the mistakes that kept occurring so frequently with that excuse and I convinced myself that it’s okay to mess up. Now, of course it is okay to mess up but one needs to learn something from the mistake and take away something important from that experience. I did not seem to be doing that, instead I kept giving myself more and more chances to screw things up without learning a damn thing.

I have consciously tried to correct this and break from this pattern of perpetually making mistakes because I realise that how I do one thing is how I do every damn thing.

Here are a few examples—

  • I’m late for my class, I’m late for my doctor appointments, I miss flights/trains/buses.
  • I procrastinate on studying, working on my assignment, project, work.
  • I get mad at my parents, my friends, my professors.

I kept focusing on the thing or place of the mistake. The point is I AM LATE no matter where I’m going; I PROCRASTINATE irrespective of the task; I AM SHORT-TEMPERED regardless of the situation.

I could go on listing many situations where I have been wrong and point of how it is merely the way I have been living my life and how it has become a part of me. In fact, I have made a list. Now, it is time for me to work on that list and make sure that it isn’t me anymore because I don’t want to be that person, it’ll take some time and require a lot of resilience and patience but I am ready to put the effort in to make myself a better person than I was before. I also know for a fact that there are many out there just like me facing similar issues and this is a call-out to them to come out of denial and accept who we really are and strive to not be those irresponsibly stupid people anymore.


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Scars are beautiful

Mistakes, a phenomena constantly made by all of us(and denied, too). Mistakes are hated and looked down upon by many because they remind us of our shortcomings. They make us feel like failures, losers, idiots. It is natural to be disappointed when you make mistakes but they are crucial to our overall success.

  • Without mistakes, there’d be no lessons
  • We’d forever be unaware of our shortcomings
  • Make us realise that there’s more than one way to do things
  • Make great stories once you are successful

I think, mistakes are important tips we need to pick up on our way to our success and I firmly believe that every fall is vital because they teach us something new if we are willing to listen and learn. We just need to keep an open mind an be willing to take risks and learn from failures. We should learn to not be afraid of making mistakes, we are only human.


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Health

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10 October is marked as the World Mental Health Day by WHO and it is aimed at spreading awareness among the people about the problems of mental health issues. It is a very important and real problem faced by many of us and there is a need to address this issue.

Mental health has always been less important than physical health for a long time but it is time to change than and bring an emphasis to a healthier mind.

There are a couple of things, you can do to help those around you who are suffering from mental health issues. Create a safe space for them to speak to you and encourage them to speak about it to their close ones. Do not judge them. Make them feel comfortable and realise that you are there to help them. Sometimes, they don’t need your advice, you simply have to listen to them and that itself is of great help for them. Make them aware of the organisations that are here to help them. Taking professional help doesn’t make them weak and make sure they are aware of this. By doing this you make mental health care a reality for people around you and worldwide.

Be nice!


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Opinions are not facts

Everyone in this world has many different opinions about many different things around us. We have opinions about movies, politics, cats, dogs, music, books, dance, guitars, cars, pens, sex, love, space and what not! No one can say they do not have an opinions about something; because we are human beings and we are supposed to think and create an impression about the things that happen around us and to us. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t. We must perceive things and understand them and develop preferences for certain things over the other. We need to see all the different events and cultivate different views about them. That’s what we are meant to do and that’s why we are given the privilege think and if we didn’t do that, we’d be wasting our brain’s abilities.

So, all of us are entitled to our own opinions. Every single one of us. But..

We have misused that right. We have come to believe that opinions are facts and that what we think and how we see is the only way to look at things. Let me elaborate:

Just because you have seen something in a certain way and developed an idea about it, it doesn’t mean everyone in this world is gonna agree with you. In fact, most of them might disagree with you. You do not have to right to assume that your sentiment is a fact and you sure as hell should not stuff it in people’s face. Learn to respect other people’s viewpoint and try to understand that. Everyone can teach you something you don’t know. In fact, listening to their idea may help you to look at it in a way you never thought of before.

Discussion is an exchange of information. Argument is an exchange of ignorance.

Stop being ignorant of the people around you. In this world of social media, you can share your views across continents in a matter of seconds, which is what I’m doing right now, so you need to be able to accept others take on the matter and be open to new ideas and discussions. You might be used to the idea that you’ve developed but that doesn’t make it true; not does it make the other person’s notion less valuable.

Also, it is important to understand that your opinion of something doesn’t make it a reality or the truth. It is simply the way you have seen the issue or event and how your brain has come to understand it. I kindly request you to think before dismissing someone’s impression of a matter. Before talking about anything ask yourself three things

  • Is it necessary?
  • Is it kind?
  • Does it make a difference.

If the answer to any one of those questions is no, may be you should just keep quiet. Stop hurting and attacking others sentiments. Keep calm and love well.

Everyone can have their own opinion, everyone cannot have their own fact.