Life can change pretty quickly

We have all heard about how nothing in this world is certain and the only thing that is a constant is ‘change’. It is true and you don’t realise how true this is until you are at the receiving end of this change.

Life just thunderbolts your entire world upside down in a fraction of second and you are left there stammering and gasping.

And this can happen to anyone, no matter how happy, sad, busy, entitled, arrogant, kind, loving, or smart you are. No one is immune to life’s sudden mood swings that leave you wondering and questioning about the very purpose of it.

This week I have heard of two deaths of people that study in my college. That is, two lives, that I have probably crossed paths with, who do not exist anymore. They were someone’s son/daughter, someone’s best friend, someone’s bae, someone’s constant. This is really a smack in my head by this thing called ‘reality’. This is a not so gentle reminder to the rest of us — the living, about how really uncertain and small life is and how we should truly be concentrating on the things that makes us and the people around us happy becasue no one knows for a fact who will be around for how long!

Reality is like a game that we are forced to play but you could, at any moment, be destroyed, and in truth you have absolutely no control over what is happening in the game except the things that you can do for yourself, by yourself. We keep making plans about the future as if it is guaranteed; instead we could be focusing on living today, and making it amazing.

Your forever could end tomorrow, so what is stopping you from living today?


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Rejection and Response

You have probably heard of how rejection and mistakes are good things. How they shape who you are and teach you valuable lessons. Well, it is true and false at the same time. Lessons are taught by nature at all times. But these are useful only if you heed to what they are saying and understand that these need to be taken in a positive way. The teachings of life can so easily be ignored because of the mere fact that it is indeed free!

Simply failing and making up excuses for your inadequacy isn’t going to benefit you from anyway. Make sure you are taking something away from these mistakes and learn how to better yourself the next time you have to do the task. Analysis and preparation are crucial for turning the failures into something of value. So, stop giving bullshit excuses to yourself and start analysing where you are going wrong.

We all get rejected and it sucks! Nobody likes being told “you aren’t good enough“, “your skills aren’t sufficient“, or even “better luck next time“. But you gotta remember, the comeback is always better than the setback. And you need to make sure that you aren’t repeating the same thing over and over. I’ve written about how harmful these patterns are Read here!

Here’s a basic system that you can use in order to get something valuable out of this rejection:

  • Put an end to denial – Stop thinking you are greater than thou and admit you failed
  • Review what you did or didn’t do against what you should have done
  • Figure out where you went wrong. If you can’t do it on your own, ask for help. There’s no shame
  • Now, that you’ve figured where you’ve gone wrong, start working towards how to make it right!

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ANNOUNCEMENT: NEW YouTube Channel!

Hey guys,

I am happy to tell you all that I have started a new Channel on YouTube to be able share my ideas better and in a better way and I hope you guys find it interesting, I would greatly appreciate it if you could take a look at the channel and support it. Thank you in advance.

Here is my video, introducing myself and why I started YouTube:

Struggles in the last week

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There comes a time in anyone’s life when they feel like they aren’t worth anything. When everything they’ve done so far seems to be for nothing. Everyone around you seems to have it all figured out and making progress while you’re just stuck doing absolutely nothing. Well, this recently happened to me when I was dumbstruck by all the things that people around me – my friends, family – were doing. I felt worthless as if I was running out of time for some reason. I felt the need to do things and do them quickly. This urge, I thought was a good thing.

Turns out it isn’t.

When we feel like we’re running out of time and put ourselves under that kind of pressure when there’s absolutely no need for any of that, it causes more harm than good. Who set deadlines for the things that I’m yet to do? Who got to decide that if I start something now, it’ll be too late? Why should I feel like this is some sort of a race against time?

The answer is simple: The social pressure to ‘fit in’. Well, this pressure is the reason many of us are in jobs we don’t like and this pressure is the reason that many of us still haven’t taken that trip to explore the world because we have ‘commitments’ here. I’ve come to realize that we are fooling ourselves to a great extent by telling all these lies to ourselves. We do not have to do the same things that others do just because it is socially accepted. We do not have to do things at the same time our friends do. We sure as hell don’t have a deadline on our dreams. So, whenever you feel like ‘you’re falling behind’ know that there is no such thing as falling behind.

You have to work hard, sure. But that should come from within and be self motivated. You shouldn’t wanna do something because everyone around you is doing that. It’s not only stupid but also useless and never gets the results you’re hoping for. Worrying about the things that others are doing and worrying about the things that you haven’t done is never gonna change anything. So, get off the worrying boat and go kick some ass.

Stay motivated. Stay focused.