Life can change pretty quickly

We have all heard about how nothing in this world is certain and the only thing that is a constant is ‘change’. It is true and you don’t realise how true this is until you are at the receiving end of this change.

Life just thunderbolts your entire world upside down in a fraction of second and you are left there stammering and gasping.

And this can happen to anyone, no matter how happy, sad, busy, entitled, arrogant, kind, loving, or smart you are. No one is immune to life’s sudden mood swings that leave you wondering and questioning about the very purpose of it.

This week I have heard of two deaths of people that study in my college. That is, two lives, that I have probably crossed paths with, who do not exist anymore. They were someone’s son/daughter, someone’s best friend, someone’s bae, someone’s constant. This is really a smack in my head by this thing called ‘reality’. This is a not so gentle reminder to the rest of us — the living, about how really uncertain and small life is and how we should truly be concentrating on the things that makes us and the people around us happy becasue no one knows for a fact who will be around for how long!

Reality is like a game that we are forced to play but you could, at any moment, be destroyed, and in truth you have absolutely no control over what is happening in the game except the things that you can do for yourself, by yourself. We keep making plans about the future as if it is guaranteed; instead we could be focusing on living today, and making it amazing.

Your forever could end tomorrow, so what is stopping you from living today?


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Minimalism

Does minimalism actually work?

Minimalism is the new fad in town. Everybody is actively talking about it and writing about why we should all live a minimal, clutter-free life. There are tons of posts out there outlining the advantages of minimalism!

But here’s the deal…

A world which is filled with so many visionaries and artists shouldn’t be told ‘how to live’ their lives.

We are all dreamers and we all want to do amazing things in life. We dream of a life we’ll be leading and all things in it; being told which is the ‘best’ practice seems childish. The lives we have imagined and designed for ourselves might not be minimal and that is okay!
You can live your life in whatever way that works for you. Experiment with different concepts and try different lifestyles; whatever you are comfortable with and enjoy living that way.

Do not let the Internet tell you there is a ‘best way’ to do life!

May be you are one of those people, for whom, minimalism actually does work! That’s good for you but don’t expect everyone to be the same. Some of us don’t have it all together like you but we’re happy and content with life. We don’t need a guide on how to be ourselves, so just let us be! Don’t get me wrong, I am not against Minimalism, I think the concept is great and I admire people who can make do with less than 100 things in their house but I’m just saying I’m not one of them. May be in the future I’ll experiment with minimalism and like it but for now, I like this messy, unorganized, cluttered lifestyle that I’m living.

Planning for a distant future

Of late, I’ve been planning for a life that I’m want to embark. I’m almost 20 and I feel like I’m ready to start planning my life. I could be so wrong for all I know. I mean, I have been wrong before. Multiple times. On numerous occasions. For various reasons.

But!! I have started planning out what my life should look like. I’ve made a rough sketch of what I’ll be doing in five years from now. It all looks good on paper. Very tantalizing, failing to give a true idea of how hard it is going to be. Then, I started thinking about what needs to be done in order to be able to do everything I have planned to do. And that’s where the problem started…

Now, don’t mistake me, I think hard work is the only route to success and there are absolutely no shortcuts but man, hard work is hard (hence, the name, I suppose). Planning was so much fun, listing out all the things I’d own and all things this I’d do and all the people I’ll be surrounded with; was all so blissfully planned without thinking of the amount of hard work that goes in it. This life I’ve imagined for myself is something I truly want because I seemed really happy in it. Sure, that’s always not the case and there’ll always be ups and downs but is that going to stop me living this crazy awesome life I’ve planned for myself. Now that I’ve ideated my future and there’s something to look forward to for the next couple of years, I know exactly how to monitor, track and assess my progress (all of the three words used mean the same thing).

I’m ready to put in the hard work, I’ve slacked off enough and procrastinated much more than I should have and I’m done doing those unproductive things that have led me to believe I’m useless and cannot achieve anything.. Bill Gates, the famous entrepreneur and the founder of Microsoft was known for a famous quote

“I never took a day off in my twenties.” – Bill Gates

That explains why he’s a billionaire and is such a respected and admired entrepreneur. Now, I’m not 20 yet but I’m very close (one week till I’m twenty) so I want to try to follow this as much as possible. I’m going to make a poster of that quote and hang it on the wall in my room (will post a picture soon) and look at it every time I feel like taking a break; that is, every SINGLE day. But that’s okay, if I have to remind myself this every day in order to be the person I want to be, then I will remind myself every single day.

By following the principles of the successful people, through their days of failure, especially, you learn more than any book could ever teach you. So, be wise while choosing your rock stars and follow them and their principles that got them to where they are today. Make plans for your future and picture yourself in a place you are truly happy. Make sure you follow up with the work necessary to achieve what you have pictured. It ain’t gonna be easy, but it’ll be worth every bit, trust me.

Work hard. Be great.

Struggles in the last week

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There comes a time in anyone’s life when they feel like they aren’t worth anything. When everything they’ve done so far seems to be for nothing. Everyone around you seems to have it all figured out and making progress while you’re just stuck doing absolutely nothing. Well, this recently happened to me when I was dumbstruck by all the things that people around me – my friends, family – were doing. I felt worthless as if I was running out of time for some reason. I felt the need to do things and do them quickly. This urge, I thought was a good thing.

Turns out it isn’t.

When we feel like we’re running out of time and put ourselves under that kind of pressure when there’s absolutely no need for any of that, it causes more harm than good. Who set deadlines for the things that I’m yet to do? Who got to decide that if I start something now, it’ll be too late? Why should I feel like this is some sort of a race against time?

The answer is simple: The social pressure to ‘fit in’. Well, this pressure is the reason many of us are in jobs we don’t like and this pressure is the reason that many of us still haven’t taken that trip to explore the world because we have ‘commitments’ here. I’ve come to realize that we are fooling ourselves to a great extent by telling all these lies to ourselves. We do not have to do the same things that others do just because it is socially accepted. We do not have to do things at the same time our friends do. We sure as hell don’t have a deadline on our dreams. So, whenever you feel like ‘you’re falling behind’ know that there is no such thing as falling behind.

You have to work hard, sure. But that should come from within and be self motivated. You shouldn’t wanna do something because everyone around you is doing that. It’s not only stupid but also useless and never gets the results you’re hoping for. Worrying about the things that others are doing and worrying about the things that you haven’t done is never gonna change anything. So, get off the worrying boat and go kick some ass.

Stay motivated. Stay focused.

People don’t know what they want

Recently, I came across a friend who was very much engrossed in his smartphone. In fact, he was interacting more with the phone than me. I jokingly challenged him to stay off his smartphone for a week — like completely off (maybe, use a basic phone just for calls!) He laughed at it; I told him that I was serious and we could involve some money in the bet too. His face changed and he said, “I could stay off food for a week not my phone.” And continued texting away. This got me thinking, how and when did a smartphone become more important to a human life than food? (Well technically, it isn’t because you’d die if you don’t eat!)

So, I wanted to know if a lot of people feel the same. I asked a lot of people — friends, family and acquaintances. And I came with an answer and it was an overwhelming ‘Yes!’ There are many different types of people that you meet, and chances are most of them feel like their lives revolve around their phones. I’m talking about smartphones; it might as well be anything else — their laptops or the ‘internet’ (or WiFi), or the Whats App, Facebook, anything else… We are so involved and caught up in this virtual society; it feels like we are trapped.

The reason for this is people don’t know what they want unless told. You give someone (who hasn’t used a laptop) a laptop and tell them, this is an absolute need and that they would find it extremely helpful, they WILL believe you. In fact, a couple of weeks down the line, they’d be inseparable from the laptop and probably thank you for introducing them to it. This is exactly what advertising companies do; they lead you to believing that you need something even if you actually don’t. Look at our parents who didn’t have smartphones/laptops/TVs when they were growing up, and they turned out just fine.

Yes yes, I understand these innovations have their advantages but is it really something worth giving up food (Being metaphorical here!) for?

It is not. Simple as that. The phone that you use is a tool to make your life easier, a device to reduce your workload and thereby reduce stress. It is nothing more than a piece of finely crafted microprocessor, micro-controllers and other circuits to make you deal with your tasks better. But right now these instruments are causing anxiety, depression and make an individual question the purpose of their existence. The number of likes for your photo matters more than the way you conduct yourself in public and the tweet with the maximum number of re-tweets is having a greater impact than the rightful opinions of the masses.

We are so easily influenced, so easily manipulated, so easily tricked into believing anything that is thrown at us. We have been naive, malleable and really really stupid. But we can change that — stop letting the keyboard warriors to tell you that you aren’t good enough, stop thinking the number of likes on that photo is a measure of your beauty, stop letting the companies fool you and trick you into believing that you ‘need’ their product. And make sure that you only buy the things that you absolutely need and not because your friends have bought it or because the society thinks you need it.

Stay informed. Be smart.

The poles of a magnet

I find it interesting when people say that two different people attract just like two unlike poles of a magnet attract. Just because a material with certain properties attracts when brought close to the another ‘pole’, does that apply to humans as well?

MY answer is no. Of course, when two people with different opinions come together, they’ll have a lot to talk about and discuss. They will never get bored and keep each other entertained. But think about it, these days people are so competitive and egoistic that nobody wants to lose anything…. even an argument. So, a friendly debate will lead to an argument which neither of them want to lose and finally burst out someday and end in a tragedy.

I’m not saying two people should have the exact same interests and opinions about everything; life would be too boring then but all that I’m trying to say is that two very different people can never make it together till the end. Two poles of a magnet

Take a look at the above picture, that is exactly what happens when two extremes come together, they might me but never mix. But then again, this is solely my thoughts and I’ve been wrong before.

 

Cheers

My Chelsea love: How it all started

It started about ten years ago (2003-04 season), when my brother was watching a game between Liverpool and Chelsea. I didn’t know anything about football back then, but I was forced to watch it. My brother was supporting Liverpool and to spice things up I said Chelsea will win. It turned out to be one hell of a match. I still remember Chelsea took a lead in the first half before it was equalized by a Liverpool penalty in the second. I remember the penalty because it was taken twice for some reason I can’t remember and LFC missed the first one but scored the second. 😛

Chelsea scored late on in the game to snatch away a victory at Anfield. At that point I thought, that was the last football match I’d see, it so happens, the next week as I was switching channels I came across Chelsea v Leicester and I decided to watch it as there was nothing else on TV; Chelsea won that game with a 2-1 scoreline too. Then I started watching their games week in week out, only a few were telecasted if I remember correctly. That season Chelsea finished second and I felt so bad. 😦

I was too small to realize that I’ve started supporting CFC but Chelsea were always the team for me and I will never forget the first time I watched them play. It might seem like a stupid reason to support a team but like they say

‘You don’t pick a team, the team picks you’  

Well, Chelsea picked me on 17th August, 2003 and I have grown into a passionate admirer of Chelsea Football Club.  🙂


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