We get disappointed sometimes. We fuck up. We get tired of hustling so hard. We get confused. We overthink. We oversleep.
This is all normal. This is all natural.
But have you noticed, when we talk about these to someone — your friend, family member or anybody— they always jump straight into giving advice. They want to tell you what to do, how to do and a routine to follow. They’ll give you solutions, ways to tackle, and overcome this ‘phase of life’. Steps to be productive, a morning routine, an evening routine, a micro habit that you MUST do to change your life. And what not!
I appreciate the urge and the eagerness to help, but please stop now! And I mean this in the politest way ever. Sometimes, I just want to rant, feel helpless, let it all out without wanting any ‘solutions’. I will ask for your help if I need, please do not shove it down my throat when all I want you to do is listen. Just listen to me go on about how I have not done any work this week. Listen to me rant about that annoying person I met on the bus. Or the time I was confused about my career choice. Also, the time when I was overwhelmed during my birthday surprise! Just. Listen.
This is not an order but a request. Stop trying to fix everything. Stop trying to fix me. I am not broken; just living. I’m bound to complain and rant. I’m allowed to do that. I understand the urge to wanna fix something—I have it too, it is human nature to want everything perfect and shiny. But I’ve learned to let it go and take life as it is.
I will surely ask for your assistance if I need it. But until then… Just Listen.