Being Busy

We think it is good to be busy

If you are anything like a normal human being, you’ve probably come across a point where you had to tell someone you were busy with something important. And chances are, you have said this even though you had nothing important and you just needed an excuse to get out the situation. But many a times, we miss out on experiences being were are being ‘busy’ for no apparent reason. Let me elaborate.

We are so caught up in our everyday hectic life —the job/college, the family/kids, the hustle and the work. We convince ourselves that leading a hectic life is a good thing. We believe that being ‘busy’ is progress. But who are we kidding! We cannot be too busy for life. Life passes by when you too busy focusing on unimportant things. I firmly believe in this. Now, this is not to say you should quit your job and say yes to all of the things that people are inviting you to. No. This is merely a reminder that you might not be as ‘busy’ as you think. And once a while, it is okay to let your hair down and enjoy a nice dinner with loved ones. It is okay to pause the hustle and be happy with who you are and enjoy life as it comes. Take a break and really savour the moment.

Further, being productive and being busy are often confused to be the same thing. Often times, when you are productive, you are not really ‘busy’. Because being productive means planning in advance what you are going to do and this means have time to relax and chill. So, stop fooling yourself that just because you don’t have any time left in the day, you are being productive. It simply means you haven’t planned a schedule or you follow a crappy schedule.

So, try to get out of this misconception of how being busy is good for you. It is destroying you one day at a time.

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Stop trying to fix me

We get disappointed sometimes. We fuck up. We get tired of hustling so hard. We get confused. We overthink. We oversleep.

This is all normal. This is all natural.

But have you noticed, when we talk about these to someone — your friend, family member or anybody— they always jump straight into giving advice. They want to tell you what to do, how to do and a routine to follow. They’ll give you solutions, ways to tackle, and overcome this ‘phase of life’. Steps to be productive, a morning routine, an evening routine, a micro habit that you MUST do to change your life. And what not!

I appreciate the urge and the eagerness to help, but please stop now! And I mean this in the politest way ever. Sometimes, I just want to rant, feel helpless, let it all out without wanting any ‘solutions’. I will ask for your help if I need, please do not shove it down my throat when all I want you to do is listen. Just listen to me go on about how I have not done any work this week. Listen to me rant about that annoying person I met on the bus. Or the time I was confused about my career choice. Also, the time when I was overwhelmed during my birthday surprise! Just. Listen.

This is not an order but a request. Stop trying to fix everything. Stop trying to fix me. I am not broken; just living. I’m bound to complain and rant. I’m allowed to do that. I understand the urge to wanna fix something—I have it too, it is human nature to want everything perfect and shiny. But I’ve learned to let it go and take life as it is.

I will surely ask for your assistance if I need it. But until then… Just Listen.

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